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People vs Expectations
People vs Expectations I wonder sometimes if it is people who are so disappointing or is it our expectations of that particular person. But I try to live by this, if you dont have any expectations of anyone then you can't really be disappointed. But still I find myself disappointed by certain people. Maybe I had hoped that those people would be more than what they turned out to be. So would that make the person disappointing or did I simply have an unconscious expectation of this person? A wise girl knows her limits, a smart girl knows that she has none. ~Purr~ |
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It seems to me, by my own experiences, that people are only disappointing if there are expectations. I have no issue with having expectations ( although I personally have none) but I do have an issue with people that have expectations and do not communicate them or declare them. A relationship ( defined by what is shared within that relationship, i.e. friends, business, lover, etc.) only persists as long a status quo is maintained. What tends to make a good relationship, is an honest declaration of those involved as to what the status quo is, and all parties honoring it.
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That was worded quite perfectly A wise girl knows her limits, a smart girl knows that she has none. ~Purr~
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Expectations by the very definition are our hopes for something unknown but, don't give up if they seem to have not been met at the onset.
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Only a hope. A wise girl knows her limits, a smart girl knows that she has none. ~Purr~
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We all have hidden biases and expectations, pale kitten. As I've gotten older, I try to temper this by keeping in mind that nothing may come of a meeting, or it could be the beginning of a relationship. The thing that hurts me the most is when I have high hopes for a woman only to see it not work out. The reason is that I'm very selective about women I'd be attracted to, add to that my sexual tastes (D/s), and it's a very limited pool of women I'm interacting with to begin with. I've only really met a few women I'd consider ideal for me in my lifetime. "My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur
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I think expectations are a lot like standards. Being unrealistic doesn't work for either, just as settling isn't particularly fun or healthy. Did you communicate your expectations in this case, or was it more of a hope?
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