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People vs Expectations  

rm_makemepurr34 50F
264 posts
1/21/2018 9:41 am
People vs Expectations


I wonder sometimes if it is people who are so disappointing or is it our expectations of that particular person. But I try to live by this, if you dont have any expectations of anyone then you can't really be disappointed. But still I find myself disappointed by certain people. Maybe I had hoped that those people would be more than what they turned out to be. So would that make the person disappointing or did I simply have an unconscious expectation of this person?

A wise girl knows her limits, a smart girl knows that she has none.

~Purr~


Devilish462 49M
35 posts
3/1/2018 6:41 am

It seems to me, by my own experiences, that people are only disappointing if there are expectations. I have no issue with having expectations ( although I personally have none) but I do have an issue with people that have expectations and do not communicate them or declare them. A relationship ( defined by what is shared within that relationship, i.e. friends, business, lover, etc.) only persists as long a status quo is maintained. What tends to make a good relationship, is an honest declaration of those involved as to what the status quo is, and all parties honoring it.


rm_makemepurr34 50F
126 posts
1/28/2018 12:13 am

That was worded quite perfectly

A wise girl knows her limits, a smart girl knows that she has none.

~Purr~


Justwannap213 43M
2 posts
1/27/2018 10:28 pm

Expectations by the very definition are our hopes for something unknown but, don't give up if they seem to have not been met at the onset.


rm_makemepurr34 50F
126 posts
1/22/2018 10:56 pm

Only a hope.

A wise girl knows her limits, a smart girl knows that she has none.

~Purr~


DIVISION77 46M
8325 posts
1/21/2018 11:34 am

We all have hidden biases and expectations, pale kitten.

As I've gotten older, I try to temper this by keeping in mind that nothing may come of a meeting, or it could be the beginning of a relationship.

The thing that hurts me the most is when I have high hopes for a woman only to see it not work out.

The reason is that I'm very selective about women I'd be attracted to, add to that my sexual tastes (D/s), and it's a very limited pool of women I'm interacting with to begin with.

I've only really met a few women I'd consider ideal for me in my lifetime.

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


pureromnce 58M
324 posts
1/21/2018 10:31 am

I think expectations are a lot like standards. Being unrealistic doesn't work for either, just as settling isn't particularly fun or healthy. Did you communicate your expectations in this case, or was it more of a hope?


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