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LakeRidgeBBWSeek 63M
3847 posts
4/18/2018 11:51 pm

If I feel a woman is worth the chase to begin with, and I catch her, yeah, I keep my interest, and frankly, any I have caught had LT potential. It really depends on what they are like over time. And yes, if worth keeping, then they are worth working at it as much or harder to keep them. As to a gal being chased, in my opinion, every woman has the right to give her body to any man or woman she chooses, but if she is mine, her MIND should remain mine! I dont think if a woman of mine gives her body to another man or woman that it is a loss, but if she gives away her mind to someone else, well, the old saying, if you love something, let it go, if it stays or returns, then it loves you too, if it doesnt, you never had it to begin with, and so is not a loss. Not easy words to live with, but is my way anyway.


Yours_4A_knight 59M

4/19/2018 1:38 am

To answer your questions in order

Do you still maintain the interest after you "caught" the object of your lust or affections?

Depends, to be honest, I am very ready to assume that a woman is done with me and has moved on, and when I do that yep it is pretty much over forever.

Now you can still maintain interest in a woman even if you both know it won't be a long term romantic thing-


Again for me, it is a two-way street thing, if I am interested in her and so shows a steady interest in me, that we are committed doesn't matter as much as that we are both excited to be together than in what we do when we are apart.

Do guys seem to be more interested in a woman if she has men chasing after her, jockeying for her attention? Do you work harder, or bow out?

Some guys need to feel they are competing to care, but to me, unless she is reassuring me that she is there and is into me, then I pretty much assume that I have already lost and I wish her all the best. But I have issues, so my answers are nonstandard.

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.


Manlyenine 72M

4/19/2018 3:29 am

Do you still maintain the interest after you "caught" the object of your lust or affections? Yes sometimes my interest wanes after awhile.
Do guys seem to be more interested in a woman if she has men chasing after her, jockeying for her attention? Yes.

If a woman wants me I dump her. If she doesn't want me I want her.


ArglBargl14 61M

4/19/2018 3:57 am

That's a very good question. I think how I act will depend on how close we were, both emotionally and geographically. That being said my perception is that more often than not I'm the one waiting for her to get back to me after the "let's stay in touch" trope comes out. I guess I always hope to stay friends but all of the "she"s don't. Maybe one of these days I'll learn.

As for your last question I recently had the experience of being one element of a woman's group of friends. The only aspect of that that bugged me was that one of the other guys wasn't particularly nice to her but she still kept him around. I guess one should never underestimate the power of the penis.


DoctorBooty 43M  
6426 posts
4/19/2018 5:29 am

Complicated question and answer.

Generally if she has many men after her, I will see how much interest she shows in me to determine what I will do. If she's closeby, and shows me attention, I will recip to a point. If she does not show enough to make me think i am just being kept on a line, i will bow out quickly. I have no time for that. Of course if i am getting sex i will continue as long as it suits me.

As for wanting the object of lust after you've caught it, well i do not want it quite as bad, as the physical part is somewhat less. If I like her personality or other things i will continue to desire her however. If I stop, its 99% something about her personality usually.


notsure1949 74M
10657 posts
4/19/2018 7:43 am

it al depends, if you were in love with someone you may try, have had a few get away, not really by choice, divorce, moved away, married to someone else, do wonder now and then what happened to them.


xptsing 52M
250 posts
4/19/2018 9:50 am

After you caught your target of lust or affections and get to know that person a little bit better, it is likely that he or she may not be a match. For some reason, you may not be able,to gel with that person. Then it is better to cut your losses rather than trying to be with someone who does not really suit you. You may choose to be frank and risk of hurting the other person or just make yourself less available.

In any relationship both have to make an effort. Personally, I would never pursue people who make half efforts or no efforts to be with me.


oooooooyes 45M
130 posts
4/19/2018 2:20 pm

Personally it isn't about how much interest that she's getting from others it's about the interest that I have in her and vice versa. If she enjoys the collective attention too much then it may become an issue for me but it generally comes down to our vibe. As far as catching her goes that doesn't lead to me showing less interest. And if things have gotten to the point where it's become monotonous then in the moment I may have to ramp up my effort.


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